The Best Online Dating Sites Review you will ever read

Almost everybody dating today has used online dating sites or apps to find love. But let's face it - most people hate doing online dating for various reasons from the time it takes to the fears of weirdos and stalkers to name a few. At Evolve Dating Gurus we believe that once you are in the right frame of mind and aligned with your own love frequency, then online apps can be a great resource to attract your person. We think it can definitely be part of your 2017 vision board plan for finding new love.

To get you kick-started we wanted to bring to you a review that we think is awesome! It will save you all the time and effort of figuring out this shizz on your own. You or we could spend years doing the research, analyzation and crunching of the numbers - but why do that when the folks over at reviews.com did it for us already.

Man they are amazingly thorough at hacking the online dating maze to bring to you the top 4 sites that include the overall winner winner chicken dinner that is www.okcupid.com.

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Now our own experience and working with hundreds of clients has led us to the same conclusion. In fact, as part of our Soulmate Matchmaker program we will help you set-up a winning online dating profile that truly reflects what you're all about... and we always recommend www.okcupid.com as the platform of choice.

We actually use your profile to find matches for you and set-up the initial first dates.  So we need to have an application that has plenty of quality people and is easy to use. It doesn't hurt that the free version also works well and is enough for most people to find quality, like-minded peeps.

Hit us up for more details on exactly how we do this unique matchmaking service!

Other apps worth trying are www.match.com, especially if you're a man looking for a woman between 40-55. They have almost 50% more women users in that range.

And believe it or not, the Tinder app [ www.tinder.com ] has also been doing well in the Boulder scene lately with people that are more focused on a long-term relationship. It started out as a hook-up app - and still is in some cities - but in Boulder the more conscious-minded folks have realized that they can use it in the way they want.

If your goal is to meet real, genuine people for a relationship then don't just put up a few pictures. Make sure you fill out and state up front on your summary what you want. This really helps and can produce great results.

So go ahead and check out the review by clicking below. We'd love to hear your thoughts or experience on our facebook page as well. What's the site you prefer?

Click below to see the best online dating sites review...

http://www.reviews.com/online-dating-sites/

May the LOVE be with you!

Chris.

"Men Should Pay" and Step by Step What To Do [Part 3 of 3]

No matter what your thoughts or feelings on the issue of men paying on dates, guess what? No one is right or wrong! If you're a woman who wants a guy who’s gonna take charge, open doors and pay for meals and be the old school dude that you dream about - great! If you're the type of woman who prefers a guy who offers to go dutch or wants equal contribution back and forth - awesome! Own what you want with consciousness and complete conviction, and you will attract your match with much more ease.

Likewise, if you're a man who feels good taking care of your woman - sweet! If you want a woman who offers to pay - perfect! Own what you want with consciousness and complete conviction, and you will attract your match with much more ease.

BUT! If you find yourself getting annoyed, pissed off, or super judgemental towards what is showing up for you in your dating life, then you probably have some contradictory vibrations you're putting out there.

For heterosexual men who wants to create a conscious partnership built on trust, honesty, and a desire for growth and sustainability, our encouragement to you is:

  • Read through the questions and thoughts from part 2.
  • Sit in stillness and tune into the wisdom of your heart.
  • Ask your heart: "What feels good to me when it comes to paying? What do I feel in total alignment with?" and listen for the answer.
  • If your heart says that paying for this woman feels good, and you want to do that [regardless of traditional rules, her reaction, or where you see the relationship going], then by all means offer to pay! If you pay and it offends the woman, you’ve probably just filtered out someone who isn’t a match. If she likes the offer, you’ve probably just attracted someone who IS a match.
  • Likewise - if you feel into your heart, and you realize it doesn’t feel good to pay, and you don’t want to [again regardless of traditional rules, her reaction, or where you see the relationship going] then don’t offer to pay. Again - by following YOUR heart and YOUR truth, you filter out women who aren’t a match and attract women who are a match.
  • Whether you want to pay or don't - this part of a date is a great opportunity to have open, conscious conversation. It can be as simple as saying before the date: “I just want you to know that I really would like to treat you to dinner because it feels good to me.” or “I just want you to know that it would feel good to me to pay separate. How’s that sound to you?” or you could be super transparent [if this is your truth] and say: “You know, I’m more inclined to pay/not pay; but it’s so confusing to me what is ‘right’ these days. I’m curious what you think about it?”Some might say this kind of conversation ruins the romance - but if you feel that way, then don’t have this kind of conversation. Simple as that. We personally think bringing consciousness and depth to a connection is romantic, sexy, and real. But that’s us.
  • Own that answer as your own personal desire moving forward.
  • See the magic unfold on your next date!

We also want to propose one last general guideline: When you’re the one who invited the other person on a date that has costs [such as dinner], it might be nice to state it upfront if your desire is to split. This just feels like a courtesy regardless of your sex.

We hope you’ll wave your opinion flag and let us know what you feel about the Man Should Pay topic. Your voice is important to us!

May the LOVE be with you! Chris + Kendra

"Men Should Pay" and Thoughts to consider for Heterosexual Men [Part 2 of 3]

The question: “Should the man pay?” is like a fat, juicy pimple. As soon as it’s popped, it’s a shit show of a mess with no satisfaction. It’s a question where all kinds of people show up and wave their opinion flag whether they’re a chivalrous type, a know-it-all, a feminist, misogynist, traditionalist, or a supposed conscious couple, like us!

We are writing this in response to the many articles out there that give a black and white answer to this question that’s at least 51 shades of gray. We feel disheartened by the lack of guidance towards cultivating inner wisdom. And so here we are - writing something for men and women to consider in order to come to their own answer.

First of all “should the man pay?” is a heteronormative question that does not acknowledge the many couple combinations possible. This might seem nit-picky, but we haven’t yet seen this question posed with the heterosexual context specified. [Especially when a writer self-identifies as “conscious,” we think it’s very important to be mindful of inclusivity]. Just so we’re totally clear, the following article is referring to men and women who date heterosexually.

Please be aware that these are our opinions based on research and experience with clients, so take what works for you and toss the rest.

Should the man pay? Some things for men to consider…

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    1. Because you were raised right. Sure your mama may have told you that is what gentleman do. Maybe your dad said: “No matter what” the man always pays. You’re not them anymore and you’re free-thinking adult now. Ask yourself: What is my why for paying? There’s is no right or wrong answer. This is just about bringing consciousness to our decisions.
    2. When we hear the word “should” - we get curious. Where’s the empowered “want” in the situation? We personally don’t think anyone should do anything EVER. Especially if the only reason they should is because of what others think. Our invitation is - if there’s a “should” coming up in your dating or relationships, ask your heart: “Do I want to do this?” In our own relationship, we personally have never done anything for each other only because we thought we “should.” This way of relating has encouraged an interdependence [as opposed to codependence] and mutual trust [as opposed to the insecurity of wondering if the person is doing something out of obligation]. This is one of the fundamentals of our lasting conscious relationship.
    3. The topic of wanting to do something calls to mind the idea of “investment” in relationships. We feel that when a person looks at the things they do in a relationship as “investments,” they’re setting themselves up for major disappointment if the relationship does not last. If a person does not want to do something, but they do it because it’s an investment - they also set themselves up to resent the other person after so many times of doing this. They will almost inevitably project the pressure they put on themselves to do things they don’t want to do onto the other person. This is why we invite you to check in with your heart before doing anything in your relationships and ask if you want to do it regardless of where you see the relationship going.
    4. Some men take on the Men Should Pay rule because they’re taking a statistics approach to dating. This kind of man is operating from the stance: Which approach is going to have a higher percentage of success? They might be thinking - more women are going to be specifically attracted to or neutral about a man paying. If I can get more women to be a YES in the first place then I’ll at least be in a position to decide if I want them later. When we follow our head by not asking our heart, we miss the opportunity to develop our intuition and a sense of inner trust. This is like saying I’m going to take on a job that has the highest financial success rates regardless of how I really feel about the job, then doing it for years only to find you hate it. We invite you to just get curious: Am I that guy?
    5. Are you offering to pay because you wanna get laid? There’s nothing inherently wrong with wanting to get laid. But just know that you are treating this woman as a commodity and yourself as a person who only has sexual value to another person if you pay.
    6. Expectations attract expectations. If you’re a man who fears women judging your financial situation as not enough or if you have enough but fear gold diggers - you’re probably gonna attract judgers and gold diggers. What we resist persists. If a person expects a man to pay, she MAY attract a man who expects sex in return.
    7. If the woman doesn’t offer - get curious rather than critical. You may be looking for an equal partner in your life but are afraid to ask for that out of fear of rejection. If you don't claim it, you'll likely feel critical or feel some agitation if the woman doesn't at least offer to pay. What we criticize or get angry at can be a sign of something repressed or denied in ourselves. Where else might you be acting out of fear and/or not being yourself?
    8. Consider little to no cost dates. Especially for a first date. Break the mold and be different. She will appreciate it and you will get to know more sides of her than you would normally. There’s hundreds of ways to connect with a person. If you want a list of ideas, check out our video + free download here